Weddings are SO MUCH FUN! It’s a time to get together with all your friends, score some awesome free food, dance the night away, and celebrate an extraordinary milestone in a loved one’s life.
If you’re part of the wedding party, you’ll have just as much fun (if not more) but weddings, and the months before, also come with some very important responsibilities. I just recently was the Maid of Honor for my best friend’s wedding (pictured above) and everything is fresh on my mind. I did a lot of research beforehand, but there’s nothing like being there on the actual wedding day and seeing all the things that you can assist with.
So, whether you’re the Maid of Honor, or a bridesmaid who feels like they are able to pick up some slack for a busy MOH, here is my ultimate Maid of Honor checklist.
Before the Wedding:
#1 Plan the Bachelorette Party
This is probably the most fun duty you’ll have! Start planning as far in advance as possible so you can accommodate as many girls as you can, try to keep it budget-friendly, and keep the bride’s interests in mind. If you need some help with the logistics (I definitely did, thanks Jen), reach out to a bridesmaid. You’re probably not an expert vacation planner, and it will end up being a lot better overall if you have another person there helping you.
#2 Keep a Record of the Gifts at the Shower
When the bride opens gifts at the bridal shower, sit close and hand her new gifts to open and keep track of who they’re coming from for the thank-you notes. A lot of registries can keep track of the gifts for you now, but there will always be off-registry gifts or people who forget to include a card and will just shout out that it was from them.
#3 Help Shop for Bridesmaids Dresses
There are so many details when it comes to planning a wedding, and one opinion the bride usually wants from her MOH is on the bridesmaids dresses. Go with her to a shop and try on dresses for her so she can see how they look and give your honest opinion without being pushy.
#4 Check in on the Bridesmaids
As it gets closer to the big day, check in on the girls and make sure they’re all good. They might need your help picking a seamstress, shoe recommendations, or guidance with the schedule. Shoot them a text or an email individually and remind them of the big things they need and also ask if there is anything you can do to help them. You’re also there to help the bridesmaids because they won’t be quite as informed of the logistics as you are.
#5 Attend All Pre-Wedding Parties
Unless you have a very good excuse, it’s important to be there and support the bride and groom at any pre-wedding celebrations planned. This is probably the easiest task, because the bride is either your closest friend or sister, and there’s no where else I’d rather be than there by her side at every party.
#6 Be the Bride’s Assistant:
There are going to be a million things happening the day of the wedding. Women will be everywhere trying to talk to and fawn over the bride, schedules will tight and probably hectic, and it’s your job to do every little thing you can think of to make sure everything runs smoothly so the bride can concentrate on enjoying her day.
Instead of constantly asking her what you can do to help, pay attention to the schedule and tasks of the day and know what needs to be done already and just do it. Stay close by and pay attention to her stress level, too, so you can pick up on little things you can do to help that will be one less thing for her to do. If it’s getting close to time to leave for the venue, start packing up all the important items she needs. If someone needs to meet the photographer in the lobby, stop what you’re doing and go down there. If you can’t possibly do everything yourself, it’s also completely fine to ask the other bridesmaids to help! They love the bride too and also want the day to go well, so ask them to take care of specific jobs and just follow-up to make sure it happens.
#7 Give a Toast
It’s your moment to shine! Along with the Best Man, the Maid of Honor gives a toast at the reception, so, prepare your speech ahead of time, make it meaningful, and keep it tasteful. Now’s not the time to tell embarrassing stories or bring any discomfort to the bride or groom. Make it however long or short you want, but take it seriously and do the best you can.
#8 Assist With The Dress
Learn how to bustle the dress beforehand so you’re not frantically figuring it out the day of the wedding, arrange her train when she walks up to her place at the ceremony, and, unless the photographer has an assistant who can help, arrange her dress and veil during the portraits after the ceremony. Be there to help her in the bathroom if there is a spill or tear, and if she changes out of the dress before she leaves the venue, make sure it returns safely to the hotel or is put in the hands of the friend/family member keeping it for her.
#9 Be the “I’ll grab it” Girl
The bride shouldn’t have to keep anything on her during the wedding, so keep whatever you can for her in your purse and pockets, and for the things that won’t fit, be the one who says “I’ll grab it”. She might need lipstick or other touch-ups for her makeup, she might need her phone, she might need her flat shoes because her feet are hurting; whatever it is, be the one who stops what you’re doing and helps out by grabbing it for her so she isn’t running around.
#10 Do Final Checks for the Bridesmaids
Make sure they have on all their jewelry, their dresses are steamed, they each have a bouquet, and they’re also having a good time. They’ll be eager to help now, too, but it’s your job to do the more difficult tasks so they can have fun with the bride and also help her stay calm and happy.
#11 Take Care of the Bridal Suite
Go back after the send-off and make sure no one left any belongings behind in the suite and also gather the bride’s things. She’ll have a lot of items she needed to get ready, like makeup, hair supplies, extra shoes, and probably her phone, so it’s the Maid of Honor’s duty to get it all together and either take it back to the hotel yourself or give it to her closest family member.
Hope this checklist helps any of you who are going to be a Maid of Honor soon or any time in the future!