5 Simple Ways to Be More Polite

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 Good manners, in my humble Southern opinion, are one of the most important things you can have. You can make lasting impressions, help people out of awkward situations, and gain valuable relationships by being courteous. Some would say it’s a lost art, but I think even the tiniest of gestures can be easy to do in your daily life, and they can make such a difference.

Here are my 5 simples ways to be more polite (taught to me by my mamma):

#1 Cover For People

This, in my book, is THE key to having good manners. People make mistakes, say or do embarrassing things without thinking, or fumble in front of others, and someone who is truly polite will be the first to try to cover for them. Someone without any manners, on the other hand, will bring attention to the mistake, which is such a rude thing to do. This goes for the smallest of things.

It’s hard to explain, but I think a scene from the movie Pretty Woman perfectly describes it. Julia Roberts is all dressed up at a fancy dinner and she doesn’t know which utensil to use for her meal. She turns to Richard Gere and asks where the salad is, which he told her comes after the meal, and she responds with “but that was the fork I knew.” As she looks down at her plate, worried that she will use the wrong fork and embarrass herself in front of these fancy people, a gentleman at the table said to her “I don’t know about you, but I’ve never been able to tell which goes with what” and he picks up the food and eats it with his hands to show her what to do discretely. This man was clearly rich and refined, he definitely knew which utensils to use, but he effortlessly, without drawing any attention to her and making it seem like he was the one who didn’t know what he was doing, covered for her and saved her from an embarrassing moment.

It’s such a small thing, but I think it’s so important to help people and treat them how you would hope to be treated in the same situation.

#2 Girls, Be the First to Grab a Place

Yes, I mean it! Say you’re at a BBQ with your friends and family. All the guys have been talking about being ready for the food to be served, and then when it’s finally there, they all wait to the side for the ladies to grab a plate first, but all the ladies are too embarrassed to look too eager to eat. It’s such a silly dance we do, but it happens every time. So, I think the polite thing to do is if you’re a girl, grab a dang plate and get the ball rolling! The men aren’t going to look at you and criticize your waistline and think you shouldn’t be eating. Instead, they’ll be relieved because they did the gentlemanly thing and they still don’t have to wait forever to eat. Plus, you get to eat first, and you know you wanted that pulled pork sandwich.

Also, if you’re at a party where the hostess prepared a hot meal, you should consider all the work they put in and eat before it gets cold.

#3 Show Your Appreciation

Everyone wants to feel appreciated. It can be really easy to get lazy, especially with the ones closest to you or the people you may never see again, but people really remember when they’re properly acknowledged for something kind they did. I’m not saying you should throw a party every time someone holds the door for you, but it’s important to let them know you’re thankful.

For instance, if you’re shorter and you’re having trouble getting your luggage in the overhead bin and someone offers to help, really show your appreciation. Instead of a timid “thank you”, you should make eye contact with them and say something like “thank you, I don’t know how I would have gotten that thing up there without your help! I really appreciate it.” Seems obvious enough, but I know I have done something for someone and they barely thanked me, and it even made me for a minute wish I hadn’t helped them.

#4 Consider Other People’s Situations

 This is my personal updated rule on the whole “men holding the door for women” thing. Now more than ever, it is so important for women to show their strength and not be passive towards men. While I personally still appreciate if a man holds the door for me (I’m old-fashioned like that) I completely understand and respect where the women who don’t care for it are coming from.

So, with that said, I think we should all consider situations we are in and help if it would be just that, helpful. If someone is holding a bunch of crap and they can’t open the door without struggling, help them. If a pregnant woman is being tossed around on the bus and clearly would be more comfortable in a seat, offer yours. I don’t care if you’re a man or a woman, simply considering the situation another human is in and offering to help if you can is such a small but meaningful thing you can do. Being polite means being kind.

#5 Listen Up and Pay Attention

This is all about conversations, and it can be split up in two subcategories:

A. Actually listen to people when they’re talking. You know the feeling when someone is talking and you’re not really listening because you can’t wait until they’re finished because you have something really great to contribute? Imagine if that was how everyone was thinking when you were talking. It doesn’t feel so good, does it? When I think about it too much, it honestly makes me not want to talk at all. A simple way to be polite is to just take a second and remember that a conversation is supposed to be between two equals, both giving their insights and opinions, and both deserve a listening ear.

B. Pay attention to body language. This is a little deeper, but if you’re ever having a conversation with someone on the heavier side, discussing things like religion, family, or politics, pay attention to their body language. You should never assume someone’s standing on any issue, and it can be really easy to offend someone if you’re not thinking. People tend to retract, like sit further back in their chair or take their hand off the table and put it in their lap, or break eye contact more often than they normally would if they’re feeling uncomfortable, and if you notice this, you should maybe reconsider the topic. The polite thing to do is make sure everyone in the conversation is comfortable.

 

Photos by: Brandon Hill

What to Wear to a Movie Premiere: My Outfit for DIFF

What to wear to a movie premiere: My Outfit for DIFF | high neck floral dress with bell sleeves and lace up heels for spring

What to wear to a movie premiere: My Outfit for DIFF | high neck floral dress with bell sleeves and lace up heels for spring

What to wear to a movie premiere: My Outfit for DIFF | high neck floral dress with bell sleeves and lace up heels for spring

What to wear to a movie premiere: My Outfit for DIFF | high neck floral dress with bell sleeves and lace up heels for spring

What to wear to a movie premiere: My Outfit for DIFF | high neck floral dress with bell sleeves and lace up heels for spring

What to wear to a movie premiere: My Outfit for DIFF | high neck floral dress with bell sleeves and lace up heels for spring

What to wear to a movie premiere: My Outfit for DIFF | high neck floral dress with bell sleeves and lace up heels for spring

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A few weeks ago, Mike and I headed to the Dallas International Film Festival (DIFF) to see the premiere of Bomb City. As you may or may not know, Mike moved to LA last summer to pursue his acting career, but before he left he worked on three awesome projects; My All American, American Crime, and Bomb City. He was a core extra in My All American, but had significant speaking roles in American Crime (an ABC crime show) and Bomb City (a true story about an Amarillo hate crime).

We had the best time at DIFF! The first night, it was a little dressier, so Mike rented a tux and I wore this AH-mazing white number. Mike got to answers questions on the red carpet and we hung out with the rest of the cast and crew who worked on the film. Then for the second night, it was a little more casual. We got to see the movie (which was incredible, by the way) and then went out in Deep Ellum to celebrate! This was the night I decided to wear the dress in the photos above (which is $46 by the way!).

If you have movie premiere to attend (or some other similar event) here are my tips to help you choose the perfect outfit:

#1 Find Out What You’re Doing After

For this premiere, I knew we were going to be going out on the town after, so I kept that in mind when I picked my outfit. Deep Ellum is kind of the new “cool” area in Dallas to go out, so I wanted something that was good to wear to fun bars.

#2 Check Out the Theater

I googled the theater and found out that it’s in a more casual area surrounded by restaurants and shopping. The inside looked somewhat casual as well, so I kept that in mind.

#3 Look at Photos From Previous Years

I looked up albums from earlier years at DIFF and saw what other people were wearing to make sure I wouldn’t be too dressed up or down. Mike and I were more dressed up than most on the first night with my gown and his tux, but it’s always better to be over dressed than under dressed! It is a movie premiere, after all, and we wanted to celebrate.

#4 Consider the Movie Theme

This is actually something I wish I would have done! The movie was a sort of celebration of the punk revolution in many ways, so some of the cast members went for the punk theme with their outfits, and I think that would have been fun to do too!

#5 Always Check the Weather

This is advice I always give because it’s just good sense. It was a movie, so having long sleeves was great so I didn’t get chilly, but I knew it was going to be warm walking around so I knew I didn’t want to have to carry around a jacket.

Photos by: Brandon Hill