Valentine’s Day is a complicated holiday, isn’t it? You either hate it, you love it, you pretend to hate it but secretly love it, or you pretend to love it but really couldn’t care less. There’s so many opinions about the holiday because it’s obviously geared toward couples in relationships, and even though I do have a boyfriend (sup, Mikey) I also like to use the day to remind myself that loving yourself is just as important as having love for another.
So, to spread this reminder to all of my wonderful followers, I wanted to write this post and tell you my 3 reasons to love yourself this Valentine’s Day! Yeah, it’s gonna be a little cheesy, but who doesn’t like cheese?
Number 1. When You Love Yourself, You Take Care of Yourself
When you wake up in the morning feeling happy and good about yourself, you tend to feel like you deserve the best treatment, and this leads to making good, healthy choices (both physically and mentally). If you think, “wow, I’m beautiful and caring and fabulous and deserve the best” you’re less likely to let people walk all over you, take advantage of you, or harm you. This leads to healthy relationships with others, attracting other self-loving people who don’t have the need to bring you down. This goes for friendships and relationships. Happy, positive, self-loving people will always attract each other like magnets and repel negativity just as easily.
Loving yourself also leads to being a healthier person physically. If you believe in your strong, capable, beautiful body, you’re more likely to feel like you want to feed it nourishing meals more often, make it stronger by working out, or make better choices when it comes to tobacco or alcohol. If you don’t love yourself and feel like you’re not worth the trouble, you’re more likely going to make more bad choices. Remember that no matter what size or shape you are, you are the most beautiful person and you should always love the skin you’re in, so loving yourself doesn’t always mean turning into a fitness nut, (because I don’t know about you but donuts make me pretty darn happy every now and then) but you’re less likely to completely throw all healthy habits out the window if you love your body.
Number 2. Self Love Leads to Confidence
When you love yourself, you have no reason to hide, and you become more confident in the person that you are. You feel less embarrassed for following your dreams and you go for goals that you used to think you weren’t good enough to achieve. If you walk into a room with a loving feeling toward the person that you are, you will carry good vibes with you that will radiate and attract people to you, and the best part about it is, if for some reason it didn’t, you wouldn’t care because your need for approval isn’t as high when you’re confident in your skin. You’re less of a people-pleaser when you care more about yourself. Confidence also keeps you from holding yourself back. You’re more likely to be more adventurous, try crazy new fashion trends, or apply for that dream job because you feel like you’re worth it.
Number 3. When You Love Yourself, You Become a Better Person
When you love the person you are, you become a better person by wanting to help others. Your need to please others is lower, so you have more of a desire to do good in the world and bring happiness to others because it feels good and makes you love yourself even more. Yeah, you shouldn’t want to do good just because it feels good, but as Joey in Friends said “there is no un-selfish good deed” haha! Phoebe tried really hard to prove him wrong, but she ended up finding that any time she did a good deed it made her feel good, and that’s just because it’s natural. And in the end, you still helped others, so I think it’s okay if that makes you feel good. You’re passing on your good, loving vibes to others, and that’s always a great thing.